You can remember the times when you and your partner really connected and being together felt great. Now it seems like the demands of life have overwhelmed your relationship. Even though you are still together, you often feel lonely and yearn for those good times. A close and supportive relationship is possible.
Strong, secure relationships are necessary for all of us to thrive. At Wellness Collaborative, we view connection and relationships as integral to well-being and optimal living. That’s why it can be so distressing when we experience disconnection from the most important people in our lives. We help you identify stuck patterns and find new ways to relate so that you and your loved ones feel seen, heard, understood, and safely connected.
Dr. Spiller helps couples interrupt negative cycles that lead to disconnection and learn how to reach for their partners in ways that help the partner respond supportively.
You can makes changes to improve your relationship working either one on one with a therapist or through couples therapy. Whether you are early in your relationship and want to learn ways to strengthen your connection and prevent future problems or whether your relationship seems to be on the brink of ending, we can help.
Most of us are aware of our partner’s behaviors but unaware of our own. Relationships difficulties are rarely the responsibility of one party but are the result of the pattern of interactions between both partners. Working one on one with a therapist, you learn to recognize your own negative patterns and how they show up in your relationship. Problems will seem less confusing and overwhelming, when you can learn to see more of the cycle you and your partner get stuck in. Working with a therapist who is a specialist in relationships can help you see how negative patterns unfold and get entrenched, then assist you change your relationship for the better. Understanding how couples get stuck can increase your empathy and understanding of your partner and improve communication.
Dr. Spiller specializes in helping individuals who are also in couples therapy make the most of the time and resources they are dedicating to improving their relationships. If you are in couples therapy, individual therapy to support the couples work can make the process go more quickly and smoothly. Couples facing specific challenges such as a history of trauma or substance use are especially likely to benefit of combined individual and couples therapy.
Individual therapy can also help you heal and recover after a significant relationship ends. When a relationship ends, we can be left wondering what happened and questioning our sense of self. You tell yourself to “move on” but can’t stop thinking about the past. Even when a break-up is mutual, it doesn’t mean that closure will come easily. Part of grieving is accepting that your story has changed and what you hoped for is no longer possible.